The Realist tarot ever

Author: Tranna

  • Is it Protection or Poison?

    We believe that certain habits and patterns we have when dealing with personal life, family, friends or strangers is protection for us or to them when it’s really poison. Think about the people who believe that building up a wall around them because they were scarred from a past relationship or the parent who over protects their child because they’re paranoid that something terrible will occur or the person who was burned by love so they convince themselves that becoming emotionless will somehow save them from that experience ever happening again. While these examples on the surface seem justified, beneath that is an insidious and most of the time undetectable energy that manifests into catastrophic circumstances and situations that lead to a life of suffering for that person and the people they are connected to. To add, when you think about this from an expanded perspective, if someone is unaware of these mindsets and behaviors it can affect them in a negative way which transfers from them to the next person, and that person gives it to the next and so forth and so on resulting in poison being spread everywhere because we believe that it’s protection. 

    Let’s examine the example of the parent who is extremely overprotective and overbearing of their child/ren. In the parents mind they really believe that controlling every part of the Childs life is helping them because they know best. From what they wear, to what they eat, to what schools they attend, to who they befriend, to who they date, to who they marry, to don’t have any children yet (or at all), think about your life and career first, to telling you how many kids is sufficient enough for you to have. To them they’re “protecting” their child from any harm that may come their way as a result of the child possibly making the wrong choice and decision when it comes to those matters or any outside influences negatively affecting them. Some parents “protection” has good intent behind them; however, others are fueled by their ego since they see their children as a reflection of them so whatever choices and decisions that child makes can make or break the parents image. Then we have the more casual laid back subtle controlling/nitpicking parents who just genuinely want the best for their children so they won’t say a lot but they’ll definitely say enough where you hear them and feel the energy they give off. Fact is good intentions or not, this is poisoning the child. Controlling a Childs life to the point where their entire life is crafted by the parent means that child grows up never being able to make their own decisions, unable to express themselves, lives an unauthentic life, mindless and if the controlling was suffocating enough soulless. They don’t know who the heck they are because their life is not really theirs which means they won’t be truly happy, and when you are not truly happy chances are you live a very daunting, stressful and miserable life because you don’t really know who you are and what you really want. These behaviors and mindsets of the parents is them basically bottling up poison and telling their child to drink it resulting in the child’s mind, body, soul and spirit slowly breaking down as well as their life the way real poison would. Catastrophic right? The best scenerio would be to let a child express and be who they are from the time they are able to make decisions. No one is saying not be a parent and say nothing at all even in their adult years, but balance must be pursued and practiced over a kids life. That’s healthy protection. Letting a child make mistakes and helping them to learn from it is real protection, its the antidote to your child living a full and happy life that speaks to their soul not yours. After all, you have your life so let them live theirs.

    Another example is the emotionless/heartless people who are hellbent on “protecting” themselves from hurt when it’s really poisoning them or others they’re connected to. I understand not wanting to be hurt or burnt again, but if a person is that petrified of this ever happening again, it makes you think did they learn anything from that painful experience or about themselves during that time so they know what signs to look for in any future relationships as oppose to completely shutting their heart off from the highest energy there is. And this can be in regards to any type of relationship, it doesn’t matter; hiding your emotions can have adverse affects on your personal life, It can even show up in what you manifest or what you don’t/can’t manifest because being able to embody and embrace feelings and emotions are imperative to whatever’s being manifested even if that means something negative being conceived. Nobody is ever truly emotionless/heartless even if your numb to your feelings, trust me, they are still there, they always will be. But I’ll tell you what won’t be there. Opportunities for things you truly desire such as genuine and sincere people who cherish you, love and respect you and would probably do anything to make you happy in the most healthy non codependent way however. Being emotionally unavailable is exhausting. No-one wants to be left out in the freezing cold, but being able to open up emotionally, that person is not alone because you decided to use your protection to warm them up with your loving warm heart and emotions instead of poisoning them with the freezing coldness of an emotionless and heartless soul or poisoning yourself by blocking what could have been a huge blessing in your life by way of love/romance, friendship, business partners, job/career, collaboration that could take your life, career or ideas to the next level; it can show up as many different opportunities so don’t poison yourself believing you’re protecting yourself.

    In conclusion, I hope you understand the gist of what I’m saying here. This stuff shows up in ways we probably would have never given much thought to because it comes to us so naturally. It’s like human instincts. So I encourage you to start fully contemplating your expressions of “protection” to really be certain that you are not blindly poisoning yourself or another. 

  • One Decision away from Changing your Life for the Better, Forever

    One decision huh… Sounds so simple and cliche and quite aggravating depending on where we’re at emotionally and mentally but it actually holds so much power once we fully embody and embrace the fact that we have power and control over our life, therefore we have power and control over the decisions and choices we make. It sometimes doesn’t feel that way when life’s circumstances have taken us over like a huge tidal wave causing us to feel like we’re fighting for our life placing us in survival mode which means we are now unconsciously making decisions based off of our circumstances and those prickly restrictive emotions that has made themselves at home in our beautiful minds and hearts. No bueno. When life gets a little (or a lot) of turbulence we are so convinced that we’re helpless, mindless victims, so the restrictive emotions such as anger, sadness, grief, depression etc, festers and every choice and decision we make reflects those very feelings we have in those moments which then perpetuates those emotions and cycles we find ourselves in day after day, month after month, year after year. It’s mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually draining. It even spills over to the financial aspect of life for those of us who impulsively spend when under a lot of stress. It’s also the reason why it can be so difficult to let go of habits and patterns that no longer serve us. We see this with trying to rid ourselves of addictions as well. Not utilizing our power and control over our daily decisions and choices keeps us stuck and stagnant believing there’s no way out of the murkiness of our life…Our reality. There’s no discernment when it comes to our daily choices and decisions, and sadly enough, there’s no love, no worthiness, no confidence, no hope. We are at the mercy of whatever we’re experiencing at the moment and it’s convincing us that the life we truly want and deserve is farther away than we would like (which causes anxiety and impatience) or just some fantasy in our mind that’ll never be actualized. This is when it’s time to get out of our head for a moment (stop over thinking/analyzing) the negative emotions and debilitating experience we’re in and get into our body. 

    Get into my body?!? WTH does that mean Trayona?

    This is where we have to get a little uncomfortable, vulnerable and transparent with ourselves. For some of us, that’s nothing, but for others, that’s just not the case and it’s totally fine. You’re not alone and it’s very common for us to avoid discomfort on all levels. Getting into our body means fully FEELING every emotion and physical sensation in our body no matter how uncomfortable, difficult and frightening it is. WE MUST BOLDLY GO THERE!!!! Now, I’m not saying to wallow in the “negative emotions & experience” and slip into victim consciousness further complicating the “problem”. I’m saying to fully  FEEL what’s in our body and not judge or criticize it or ourselves for that matter.  Let the feelings be what they are, and what they are doesn’t even need a label (but that’s up to you), and by doing this you are giving yourself permission to embody and embrace your deep feelings no matter how unsettling they are in that moment and you are increasing your self-awareness. 

    So, by implementing this exercise daily, you begin to look at yourself, your life and the situation with a fresh perspective which allows you to release those restrictive emotions because now you’re aware of how they no longer serve you. You now have the space within you to make the right choices and decisions that support you and the life you truly want and deserve. Those intense negative emotions or that undesirable circumstance becomes water under the bridge. You know how to confidently and lovingly deal with all the BS since you allow your feelings to be what they are without judgement or criticism, so when it’s time to make important choices and decisions you have no problem executing because nothing is obscuring that keen self-awareness you now exude. Making healthy choices and decisions becomes easier because you have mental and emotional clarity. For example, lets say you want to lose weight; before embodying your feelings and releasing that toxic energy from your system, the choices you would make would be to continue eating food that leads to more weight gain-causing more stress and anxiety-leading to more unhealthy eating patterns causing more weight gain (notice the cycle). Also, you would make choices to lay around the house binge watching tv instead of getting up to exercise which leads to debilitating thoughts and emotions causing poor choice and decision making (another cycle). But, if you were to do the embody work and release everything that doesn’t serve you, your choices would look like eating more healthier & balanced meals, exercising instead of watching tv or being on the phone mindlessly scrolling, taking a walk or going for a run, doing yoga or pilates, meditating etc. And guess what, all of this contributes to you living and leading a healthier and happier life creating the foundation for you to make choices and decisions that lead to the life you want to live. You can do this for whatever goals you have right now.

    Look, I know all of this is easier said (read) than done, but I’m telling you we must take back control of our decision and choice making. There’s an illusion that life is making the choices for us when really it’s us. We are making these impulsive choices and decisions based on our “negative” emotions and circumstances and this must cease. So, I’m encouraging you (us) to feel those feelings and release when necessary so we can have a clear mind and body and start making the essential choices and decisions that support our hopes, dreams and aspirations. Sometimes it really is the most smallest simplest ideas that lead to profound results, however, by nature us humans just make things more difficult than it has to be. My hope is that you give this a try because I am confident that it will change your life for the better helping you bring your desires into fruition.

  • Hello Abundant beings!

    I want to spend a moment talking about the word just about 90% of western society is in search of and that’s abundance. If you are currently how I use to be then anytime you see the word “Abundance” or “Abundant” something inside you instantly spark feelings of excitement you can’t contain or you try to be modest about it but deep down inside you know you’re hooked and is very likely to buy, read or listen to anything regarding that word. I also know that If you were to ask that 90% what does abundance mean to them, I can almost guarantee that most would link abundance to money, happiness or anything else that’s material. Now, I’m not saying that abundance can’t be anything material because it can and it actually is However, it’s much much deeper than having an abundance of anything external.

    First, before you read any further, what’s your textbook definition of abundance? and what does the word really mean to you? Are you like most people who associate abundance with just money and happiness or do you too feel that it is also deeper than the material aspect? My textbook definition of abundance is (an ample amount/quantity; affluence or wealth) and what it use to mean to me personally was having a lot of money and prestige. Yes, I know it’s a pretty shallow way of thinking, but thats all I really thought of whenever I heard the word and because I was operating in such a lack, limiting and scarce mindset anytime I saw the word abundance I was like a wolf or maybe more of a hyena on the hunt for “attracting” abundance. I had it completely wrong. Just recently, like literally last week as I’m listening to my healing/transformation playlist on the activation app, (wonderful app by the way) I was listening to the abundant activation and found myself not really being able to connect with the feeling of abundance because I was only thinking from an external point of view like the businesses I want to create, the money I want to make and even thinking of the future woman I desire to be so nothing was clicking internally for me. I felt like I didn’t know what it means to feel abundant because most of my life never felt abundant. Then came the discouraging feelings of hopelessness until something inside me said Muffin, you’re doing it all wrong. Stop associating abundance with only money, wealth and success especially from a future perspective and start associating it with feelings of gratitude for what I have right now and really FEELING abundant without attaching my business ideas, dollar amounts and even the Sovereign woman I’ll someday become to it; all of which is extremely important to me but when I contemplated that suggestion everything just kind of clicked for me making much more sense and helped me to really embrace and embody the FEELINGS of abundance.

    I know that Feelings are an integral part in manifesting and as we know, you can lie to yourself about how you feel but you can’t lie to the Universe. I mean, I don’t even think we can truly lie to ourselves because deep down inside, we FEEL therefore we KNOW what’s really up. The whole point I’m trying to make is that to receive an abundance of anything, start focusing on the feelings of Joy and Delight, even if that means recalling an experience that made you feel so contentedly fulfilled inside such as spending time with people you really love and care about and enjoy their company, or that time you had a couple extra hundred in your bank account and you were super ecstatic about, or that time you had mind blowing sex (with the right person), or when you have a self-care day or spending time with your children. Whatever that beautiful experience is, you hold it in your mind and in your heart for a few moments then drop the experience and focus completely on that feeling. You hold that Feeling in your heart and in your mind simultaneously thinking this is what I want more of. These feelings of intense Joy and Delight. Those genuine Feelings will be amplified. Therefore by Universal Law, the things you truly desire Will be brought into fruition and you Will have abundance because you’ll realize that you are essentially Abundant already.

    Abundance in this sense is just a Feeling that you can tap into whenever you feel like and the more you tap into those feelings of Joy and Delight the more you’ll attract joyful and delightful experiences and “things” that you can have an “abundance” of, It’s all up to you. Now, this is just my unorthodox way of thinking about things you don’t have to take my word on this but I still hope you do because I truly believe that once you do and you make it a habit, watch how Abundant your life become but more importantly, watch how you discover that abundance was already your inherent nature.